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Posted by Tim Bryce on November 30, 2012


– Which can be more alluring than just physical beauty.

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I want to speak for a moment on the beauty of women. No, I’m not a cosmetologist, dermatologist, hair dresser, or fashion coordinator, just an ordinary heterosexual with a fondness for the opposite sex. I always knew there were differences between boys and girls, but this didn’t become obvious to me until I entered junior high school whereupon I noticed the girls were beginning to apply cosmetics, change their hair, and wear more fashionable clothes. I guess this marked the beginning of our mating rituals as the boys began to sit up and take notice.

It has been my observation over the years that women depend mostly on physical attractiveness to lure a mate. This is why millions, if not billions of dollars, are spent on beauty products for hair, skin, nails, eyes, lips, legs, even the scent of a women. Let us also not forget the enormity of the fashion industry which includes not just clothes, but shoes and hats as well. It is obviously a gigantic business. Some women are naturally beautiful, and know it. Others have to work at it.

I wonder though if women are too dependent on physical appearance and overlook the allure of a personality. Over the years I have met many women who may have lacked looks, but are incredibly sensual just from their personality alone. They may have a good sense of humor, an ease about them, a confidence, or something simply feminine. I guess they just feel comfortable in their own skin and know how to make others feel likewise. Perhaps this is the “feminine mystique” I’ve been hearing about all these years. I have seen women who know how to light up a room with nothing more than a smile and a gentle wave of their hand, yet are considered frumpy otherwise. Men gravitate to such women naturally as they are more approachable as opposed to a beauty with an incredible figure, simply because they know how to carry a conversation and make the people around them feel at ease.

Some people think such things as sex and cooking are part of the allure of women, and I suspect there are many men who think this way. As for me, such things are nothing more than the icing on the cake. Any relationship based on this alone is doomed from the outset.

Instead of spending tons of money on the physical aspects, I wish they would spend a little on cultivating a personality, something that can put men at ease, even be disarmingly flirtatious. Most men can be intimidated by a ravishing beauty, thereby considering them untouchable. After they have summoned up the courage to talk to such a woman, they are crestfallen when they find there is nothing behind the facade. Instead, they would rather be able to enjoy the woman’s company, but if the lights are on and nobody is home, the encounter will be brief. I’m certainly not suggesting the woman be submissive to the male. In fact, I find that rather unappealing. The women who possesses a wit, a warm heart, an openness about them, a sense of humor, and confidence about themselves in spite of some physical defect can be much more interesting and stimulating than a glamour queen.

I guess what I’m describing is the “inner beauty” of a woman, which can be incredibly alluring, and I presume it is essentially no different for how women consider men. However, for those people who lack both an outer and inner beauty, I pray they’re good in the kitchen or bedroom. Either that, or they begin to frequent a salon, gym or a voice coach. Otherwise they are going to remain rather lonely for a long time.

Keep the Faith!

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  1. Tim Bryce said

    A J.H. of Blue Ridge, Georgia wrote…

    “Wow, thanks for this Tim. Very well written.” 🙂


  2. Tim Bryce said

    A B.W. of Macon, Georgia wrote…

    “Not sure what age I changed my view of women but it was long before I married. Two things my father taught me: 1. Never date a girl you would not marry (took me a while to discover that you had to study the girl before you asked her for a date and that dating could lead to consequences); 2. Choose a girl that you enjoy talking to, one that can carry on a conversation (bodies may look good but as we age, that changes, look at my Aunt Carol, she was a model in her early years but had no real personality and died lonely,)

    When I look at a women, I do see the apparent beauty or lack thereof by common standards. If they smile, have eyes that say I can be your friend, and their talk is nice and not vulgar, I might consider talking to to them, but today most beauty is truly skin deep as you so aptly pointed out most of it came out of a bottle or tube.

    There are some ladies that have instant appeal, while not beautiful as defined today, they have a way of standing or as you stated “Smiling” that is as attractive as the best playboy centerfold and fast maybe a bit more.

    I get to interact with lots of girls that come to act at the Haunted Barn, when they get bored of the chit-chat, they come into my shop and talk to me. I take some time to access their mannerisms and speech and outer demeanor. Some have already learned to truly be themselves and they are delight to talk to, Others have no clue, and try to dress like some celebrities or some Character, I usually ask them what message they are trying to convey to the world about their appearance, surely a ring in a lip is a statement about themselves they are trying to make. Most of these girls unless well heeled (money) are lonely and seek attention . I try hard to get them to be themselves, to find out who they are and to become part of the world instead of just being in it.

    I was elated earlier this year when one of the Haunts alumni wrote on Facebook that if it had not been for my talks, she would not have made it through college.

    Yet there is a way of looking at women that make them all beautiful, and that is to understand that God made them for Man and I really could not consider anything he made to be ugly. In that respect, we all have that inner beauty,”


  3. Tim Bryce said

    A C.V.D. of Lansing, Michigan wrote…

    “Well – how about BOTH? We women can have our outer beauty while working on our inner beauty as well?? LOL!

    Very nice article Tim! Great values highlighted and glad to hear a man saying it!”


  4. Tim Bryce said

    A J.S. of Skidway Lake, Michigan wrote…

    “This is well expressed, Tim. I think people of both genders notice beauty first, but it’s the personality that holds interest. I know several people who light up a room just by walking in and saying hi with a big smile. One of my favorite people is quite plain, but there is never a dull moment when she is around and the laughter is non-stop. She has a warm heart, is compassionate and a good listener. She is an incredible cook, too, but if someone judged her value by a photograph, they’d be missing something wonderful.”


  5. Tim Bryce said

    A K.E. of Sacramento, California wrote…

    “Yes, I agree. Pretty may get you through the door, but it won’t keep you in the room… There has to be substance and depth too… “


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